Family always comes first, unless we never have a family

My son and daughter-in-law struggle with infertility. Over the years, I’ve said every wrong thing that can be said; done every stupid thing that can be done in my reaction to their struggle.

I’ve had a small, bitter taste of their unhappiness when Tiana initially won the infertility lottery and became pregnant, only to miscarry a short time later. It remains one of the most despairing moments of *my* life; I can’t possibly imagine how horrific the rollercoaster of hope and dashed-hope is for an infertile couple.

I too, am worried about a house-full of my children, while they wait for their new homes to be ready. Whether it’s a couple of weeks or a couple of months that we’re all penned up together, there can’t help but be awkward and painful moments. And I don’t want those unfortunate moments to define our relationships going forward.

And I’m so thankful to Tiana for expressing herself so openly in the blogpost below. Tiana, you have a pass to skip family meals whenever things get overwhelming.

Life Less Fiction

We’ve started packing up for our big move at the end of the month.  But going through some of my stuff has turned me into a sobbing baby.  There are a lot of memories in there.

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Easter Ramblings

I’ve always been interested in the apparent portability of Good Friday and Easter Monday.  I was born on April 11 and once, many years back, my birthday and Good Friday fell on the same day. According to the date of Easter depends on “the ecclesiastical approximation of March 21 for the vernal equinox”. Yeah, I have no idea what that really means either. Romance writer Suzanne Stengl does a better job of explaining this with some clarity here.

The word Easter is derived from the Old English word Eastre or Eostre, believed to be a reference to an Anglo-Saxon goddess, Eostre. Christians claim the holiday as a pivotal point in their history, but are Easter bunnies, jelly beans and chocolate eggs related to the resurrection of Christ?

Not really.

The Easter bunny can be traced back to 13th century Germany and the above named goddess of Spring and fertility, Eostre. What do bunnies and fertility goddesses have in common? Yep, you guessed it.

In medieval Europe eggs were among the foods verboten during Lent and the surplus of eggs would be eaten immediately afterwards (Easter) to prevent spoilage.

Over the years, the celebration evolved to include colored eggs, Easter hats, marshmallow peeps and many themed activities around the world:

  • In 1878 President Rutherford and First Lady Lucy Hayes held the first Easter Egg Roll – now an annual tradition – on the front lawn of the White House.
  • In Poland,  Smigus-Dyngus (shming-oos-ding-oos) is celebrated on Easter Monday by boys throwing buckets of water on girls they like and spanking them with pussy willows. This frequently happens in North America as well, but it’s not confined to one day and has nothing to do with Easter.
  • In Haux, France a 5,000 egg omelet serves about 1,000 people in the town square.

Enjoy the long weekend, whatever your religious or secular leanings, and don’t eat too much chocolate. But if you do, might I recommend my Playlist for a Dental Visit?

Playlist for a Dental Appointment

I just scheduled my annual cleaning of the ivories and I thought I’d put together a playlist for the event. Because, you know, avoiding actual work.

Chomper and the Bicuspids give a foot-stomping rendition of the reasons to brush daily here.

AJ Jenkins provides a catchy, cheerful tune here.

But you probably aren’t seven, right?

Good news. Your dental playlist doesn’t need to be a syrupy sweet concoction of light, childish tunes. Go blues-y with Lonnie Johnson’s 1928 recording of The Toothache Blues.

A little darker and probably more in keeping with many of our dental fears and experiences: the Dentist Song by Galahad

The Root of All Evil by Psychostick

and Cranium’s Dentist of Death

No playlist would be complete without Steve Martin’s the Dentist! song from Little Shop of Horrors.

Here’s a bit of interesting trivia. Martin went on to play wealthy dentist Dr. Frank Sangster (in Novocaine), seduced from the loving arms of his fiancé by a patient coming to him for a root canal.

Need a laugh to get you through your appointment? I recommend Cavity Search by Weird Al Yankovic. Although there’s a painful touch of truth to his humor.


And in writing related news, here’s a blog link to the history of toothpaste by romance writer Mary Forbes.